Common Advice Scientifically Proven To Kill Motivation

Common Advice Scientifically Proven To Kill Motivation

Some people say that to keep your motivation high you need to review your progress frequently.  Others say you should keep your eye on the prize and notice the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Is one of these perspectives right and the other wrong? It turns out that psychologists have studied this question and their answer was surprising to me. Each of these ways of thinking about your goal can reduce motivation or increase…

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How Thinking of Failure Can Help You Succeed

How Thinking of Failure Can Help You Succeed

I know the title of this post sounds strange and may even be impossible to believe.  However, recent research shows it’s true – thoughts of failure can help you succeed.  And more surprisingly thoughts of success can help you fail.  It all depends on how many successes or failures you are thinking about. In one study conducted by Leila Selimbegovica, Isabelle Régnerb, Rasyid Bo Sanitiosoc and Pascal Huguetd participants were divided into four groups. Members of each group were asked…

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Block Unwanted Thoughts For Good – Research Shows How

Block Unwanted Thoughts For Good – Research Shows How

Have you ever wanted to stop thinking about something but found you just couldn’t get that thought out of your head?  Well you are not alone. In many studies in which people were asked to NOT think about something like a white bear for a period of time, later their thoughts about white bears would multiply. This phenomenon is called Post Suppressional Rebound.  And the most prevalent theory to explain it is called “ironic processing theory.”  According to this theory…

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How A Simple Change Of Mindset Can Reduce Stress

How A Simple Change Of Mindset Can Reduce Stress

Recent research shows that people who describe themselves as high in self control (aka control freaks) tend to experience a lot more stress at work. Why? They tend to use up all their internal resources at once.  In other words they put everything they have into the task they are doing at the moment and when the task takes longer than expected they don’t have anything left over to face the additional challenges. Dr. Ein-Gar of Tel Aviv University‘s Recanati…

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Science Shows Us How To Read Minds (Really)

Science Shows Us How To Read Minds (Really)

Research has shown that people spend much of their time trying to figure out what others think.  Does this person like me?  Does he/she find me attractive?  In effect, we attempt to “read minds.” Unfortunately research also shows that we are notoriously inaccurate in our mind reading.  One study showed that the accuracy of people’s guesses about whether people in a group liked them were based purely on chance – like flipping a coin. So how can we increase our…

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How To End An Argument With Anyone

How To End An Argument With Anyone

For decades psychologists have been looking for a reliable way for two people to overcome conflict with each other.  And unfortunately most of what they’ve tried just doesn’t work. However, one strategy, that takes only seconds to apply, can allow any one person in an argument to become more objective – allowing them to create a level of understanding that can overcome a conflict. Here’s how it was discovered. An experiment was done with 168 college students from Carnegie Mellon,…

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A Trait More Powerful Than Self Esteem

A Trait More Powerful Than Self Esteem

For several decades now, psychologists, educators and the media have touted the benefits of high self-esteem.  A recent search on Amazon.com showed that there are 17,931 books on the topic with more added each day. And there’s good reason for this, having high self-esteem is related to many positive benefits such as reduced instances of depression and anxiety and greater optimism. However, it may be that this faith in the power of our own self images is misplaced as much…

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A Scientifically Proven Technique That Causes You To Live Life To The Fullest

A Scientifically Proven Technique That Causes You To Live Life To The Fullest

[The subject of this post seemed very appropriate for the last day of the 30 Day Blog Challenge as you’ll see by the end.] Almost everyone wants to be happier.  But unfortunately the things that make us happy today become habitual and lose their ability to lift our moods – a phenomenon called hedonic adaptation. Gratitude exercises can often help us to overcome this adaptation.  But there’s an even more powerful technique for increasing happiness discovered by Dr Jaime L….

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Why Two Problems Are Better Than One

Why Two Problems Are Better Than One

When you are trying to solve a very difficult problem, you may try to think about only that problem so you can remain focused.  However, research done at Binghamton University in 2007 shows that this may be a mistake.  Sometimes trying to solve two problems can help you come up with solutions you’d never find if you only focused on one problem. In their study they took 293 students and gave some of them a model problem with a solution…

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An Illusion That Can Prevent You From Achieving Your Goals

An Illusion That Can Prevent You From Achieving Your Goals

Did you know that if something is difficult, we’ll often think it’s important for reaching our goals?  This can actually make it harder to get what we want in life. Recent research done at the University of Chicago shows why. Sixty-two college students participated in the study.  Half were primed for the goal of becoming a kinder person and half were not. Of those primed for the goal of becoming kinder, half were given materials on a non-profit organization called…

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